Porn

A woman I know just told me about catching her BF watching porn. I had to laugh, although it wasn't quite as funny once she said that was the reason for the crash diet she's doing right now. "The girls were younger and thinner than me so I want to lose weight so I appeal to him more." At this point I need to point out that this lady is cute, like real cute. I'm not sure exactly how old she is, but I know she looks younger cause I thought she was about my age until she mentioned a teenage kid. Until I heard about her BF today I had thought about flirting with her eventually, probably wouldn't have worked from a logistics standpoint but such logic and reason has no place in the game of love. ha. Sorry that was so corny I just had to keep it. Anyway like I said this lady is really cute, great personality and shit too but she was concerned with her appearance so thats what I'm focusing on at the moment. But I also want to talk about porn more generally. I'm sure it'll be a big shock to any reader that this perpetually single slightly obsessed with the ladies guy has in fact watched porn, on more than one occasion even! The first thing I'll talk about is what the people look like cause that was my friends concern. How many movies of any kind have ugly people? Now do you really thing they're going to have even average looking people in a movie where the people are going to be naked the whole time? The second part is, sure the porn star might be hotter than she is, but I bet the guy in the porn was better looking than her BF, probably better equipped as well. Oh, bet she didn't think about that before. I bet you don't fuck like the people in that movie either, thats why they're porn stars. Party like a rock star, fuck like a porn star. It's a phrase cause real people don't fuck like a porn stars. Which bring me to something she didn't mention. We only talked for like 30 seconds about this. Anyway, Porn is much much rougher, nastier, and dirtier that real sex. I came up with an analogy for this a long time ago and never had a chance to use it. I realized this one day while watching something that would probably disgust me if I was asked to perform it, but in porn its cool. Why is that? Why is it sexy on a screen but a bit revolting in reality? Same reason we love to watch action movies with the crazy shoot outs, car chases and senseless violence. I love the first Die Hard movie, that doesn't mean I want to go run around barefoot on broken glass shooting bad guys. A movie has to be over the top, if its just like normal life then it's boring. There needs to be something spectacular about it. In porn the people are going to be beautiful (usually) and the sex is going to be insane, because thats all their is in porn. In an action movie, the people are still going to be beautiful, the hero will be in a completely ridiculous situation and is going to find and equally ridiculous way out of it, and cars will explode for no particularly good reason, 'cause thats what an action movie is.

I know that the person who this is in reference to will never read this, unless I show her, but I still want to to say it. You're beautiful just the way you are, mentally and physically beautiful and it makes me sad to think that even someone as pretty and smart as you can be driven to stupid crash dieting because of something as silly as a boyfriend watching porn. You're better than that.

As for the more general issue of guys watching porn. If your man likes porn don't feel threatened, it's just porn. You don't assume that he's going to go on a killing spree after watching Rambo, so why assume that he's going to try to have an orgy with midget amputees while wearing a gorilla mask after watching porn?